by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Sunday. Jan 26, 2020 @ 22:30 |
Every day, a shattered family posts an obituary for a loved one lost to a drug overdose. Today it’s David Mehring’s family in Ohio. David, 47, was “caught up in the Cleveland drug epidemic and perished from an accidental heroin overdose.” In choosing to disclose David’s cause of death, the Mehring family helps humanize the opioid epidemic.
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Wednesday. Mar 21, 2018 @ 18:17
A few years back, I wrote a magazine piece that the editor criticized for containing too many clichés. In his edited version, the new opening sentence begins with “Tall, leggy blondes…” Turns out it’s tough to write without using clichés, which are a...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Thursday. Feb 8, 2018 @ 15:40 |
Steaming waffles. Dana Brown Safari coffee. Zest soap. Petunias. Cool, wet grass. Firewood. Those are some of the scents and smells I associate with my grandmother. If I were writing her obituary, I’d want to include as much of that sensory detail as possible....
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Monday. Aug 21, 2017 @ 14:21 |
Fifteen or 20 years ago, I had an elderly neighbor who chain smoked, panicked during thunderstorms, and called 911 every few months out of sheer loneliness. One day when I stopped by to chat, she asked me to wait a moment—there was something she wanted to show me. She...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Wednesday. Aug 30, 2017 @ 14:39 |
Here’s the wrenching conclusion to a young father’s obituary. What do you think—sweet or schmaltzy?
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Monday. Sep 4, 2017 @ 16:53 |
An obituary shouldn’t be a platform for the obituarist’s own hatred, shame, or guilt. In an obituary for his grandmother, Joshua Fischer denounces our “selfish desires” and deplores our “lying, stealing, cheating, taking of innocent life, adultery,...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Friday. Sep 8, 2017 @ 15:02 |
If you’re pissed off at your brother or uncle or cousin, have it out mano à mano—or girlo à girlo. If you can’t work it out, take up your grievances with the local prosecutor, your attorney, or your therapist. Save the cheap shots for Thanksgiving dinner, like everyone else.
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Thursday. Aug 31, 2017 @ 13:26 |
Why do we dread obituary writing? And why are obituaries so gloomy and colorless? Toss the templates. Write a fresh, original tribute, not a résumé and not an old-fashioned print obituary, or “death notice,” as a newspaper would call it. To learn how to...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Monday. Aug 28, 2017 @ 15:12 |
If the idea of filling in a few factoids is a lot more appealing to you than the prospect of starting an obituary from scratch, you’re in good company: According to Google Trends, the search term “obituary template” is way more popular than “obituary writing.” If your loved one had a generic personality and lived a cookie-cutter life, by all means—use a boilerplate template. It’ll capture your loved one’s uniqueness with all the joy of a 1040 form, minus the refund.
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Monday. Jan 2, 2017 @ 12:19 |
The narrative arc of a person’s life naturally moves from cradle to grave. We’re born, go to school, attend college or learn a trade. Most of us get married. Most of us get divorced. Most of us have children. Some join the military or open a business or...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Thursday. Mar 22, 2018 @ 10:47 |
This post first appeared on December 29, 2017, just after the Bronx apartment fire that killed 12 people. Since then, “Tragic Death and Obituary Writing” has become one of the most popular posts on this site. The year 2018 has given us senseless deaths in...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Friday. Dec 1, 2017 @ 16:46 |
Last year Ryan Saffrhan was shot to death in New Orleans shortly after trying to sell a dime bag of marijuana in a sketchy part of town. The New Orleans Times-Picayune described the event in a hybrid piece that was part news story, part obituary. The paper quoted...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Monday. Jan 1, 2018 @ 11:20 |
The 2013 New York Times obituary for Yvonne Brill, a rocket scientist, infamously opened with a description of her her housewifely charms: ”She made a mean beef stroganoff, followed her husband from job to job and took eight years off from work to raise three...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Thursday. Aug 10, 2017 @ 18:25 |
The people of Iceland have kept up a lovely tradition of writing letter-style obituaries, in which the obituarist writes a message directly to the obituee. These messages are warm and sincere, but they’re not sappy or unduly sorrowful. Above all, each letter is...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Friday. Mar 23, 2018 @ 2:14 |
A mindmap or wordcloud is a tool for getting started writing an obituary. I created this mindmap for my father-in-law’s obituary, but it could be used for a father’s obituary as well. Either way, your content will be completely different. For two more...
by Melissa Jayne Kinsey | Friday. Mar 16, 2018 @ 13:45 |
Journalists use the term “barf draft” to mean a rough draft that’s written (or recorded and then transcribed) all at once, without stopping to think or correct yourself or look up missing information. Once you create a barf draft of an obituary, you...
