Who says a good obit has to be deadly dull?

The traditional obituary is a gloomy collection of dry facts and chilly clichés. The internet has swept away space restrictions and made newspaper deadlines irrelevant. Social media has encouraged us to swap stories and celebrate our loved ones’ lives. Why should today’s tributes rely on the same dull script we followed 30 years ago? It’s time for the old-school obit to slip into something more contemporary.

We’ll show you step by step how to write a fresh, original tribute and create a memorable virtual memorial featuring photos, videos, and music. We live in a colorful world—let’s give our loved ones a brilliant send-off.

Melissa Jayne Kinsey

Melissa Jayne Kinsey

I’m out to prove that obituaries don’t have to be blunt-force instruments of monotony and gravitas. We’re human. Miscalculations, blunders, and gaffes are part of the deal. Nothing wrong with a little Turtle Wax, but we don’t need to buff out every flaw. Instead, we can celebrate our loved ones’ lives (or sum up our own) in tributes that are thoughtful, intimate, and funny. We can tell the stories of real, three-dimensional people with warmth and sincerity. I hope the content of this site will help you do just that.

If you’re having trouble with a specific issue or you just need some ideas, please email me, or tweet to @onlineobits. I’d be happy to help.

Free Quick-Start Guide to Writing an Online Obituary

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